My healing Journey – Part 3
The Practice of Gratitude and Forgiveness
As part of my healing journey I have, for many years, been practising the art of gratitude and forgiveness. Now out of the two most people find gratitude the easiest to do, so let’s start there.
Gratitude is part of “The Law of Attraction” (which I will cover in more details another time). Basically, when we are grateful for what we already have, then we are open to receive more. I start each day with my grateful prayers. This includes being grateful for all that I have and all that I am.
I give thanks for a roof over my head, where I feel safe and warm and all the amenities that come with it. I give thanks for all the food and drink I am able to consume on a daily basis and for everyone and everything that goes into the process of that happening. I am grateful for all the monies that have come into my life and the abundance of money that is still to come. I am truly grateful for all my possessions both large and small. I pray with gratitude for all the beauty of nature that surrounds me and for my 5 senses that allow me to enjoy all this beauty. I give thanks for my sixth sense that helps connect me to my guides, angels and loved ones in the spirit realm. I give thanks for my business and for all my clients both old and new. My gratitude continues on to cover the love and support of all my friends and family, especially my beautiful fiancée Sue. I also give great thanks for who I am, a loving, compassionate, assertive, confident, happy, supportive Mum, nana, daughter, aunt, niece, sister, friend, fiancée and work college. I always finish my prayer by asking to be open to receiving the abundance the universe has to offer me!
My daily gratefulness does not stop with my prayer. As I go about my day, I am often giving thanks for the things I see around me and the amazing experiences I have.
A few years ago, I was taking part in a mindfulness challenge where we were asked to write down 200 different things that we were grateful for. The thought of this seemed very daunting at the time but it really didn’t take long to fill the pages of my grateful journal. Once I reached the 200, I stopped for a while but have recently been adding to my list where I now have over 300 things I’m grateful for. These include material items, food, drink, people, places and I have just started to add my different types of experiences. When I read back over them, I found that I had only repeated myself 3 times so that is not bad going lol.
As part of another wellbeing course I attended, I made a thank you jar. I write on coloured paper all the wonderful experiences I have and am thankful for. I look forward to reading them at the end of the year!
Whether you say thank you out loud or in your head, you will find that it truly makes you happier and if you are happy then this too can be contagious and those around you will feel happy too. It can help bring you back out of the darkness that you may find yourself in, so even if you find it hard start practising this today, after all, what have you got to lose! Generosity goes hand in hand with gratitude so be generous with your time, love, attention, support and share what you have in abundance with those who have none.
In my work as a Soul Plan Practitioner I often talk to people about doing forgiveness work. When someone who has been hurt on a very deep level the response I get is normally “No way can I forgive them for what they done to me”. I understand, I really do get where they are coming from. I’ve been there myself and it took me ages to finally understand and realise that it is one of the best ways in which you can heal yourself from past hurt and trauma.
Working on forgiveness does not mean that what someone has done to you is alright, far from it. But what you are saying is that you forgive them for the act, or the part they played in it, and you set YOURSELF FREE from the negative energy that goes with it, the negative energy that you were holding onto. When you set yourself free from these energies you will feel lighter, happier and empowered. It does not mean that you will want to have this person in your life once again, but it will help you heal from open wounds that have been festering in your heart and mind, often for many years.
I’ve spent years working on forgiveness, not only of others but also, and more importantly of myself. I’ve certainly needed to forgive myself, more than I have others, because I lay no blame at their feet. I am the sole person responsible for all that has happened to me throughout my life. I forgive myself for all the times I have allowed others to abuse me, on all different levels. I forgive myself for all the situations I got myself into that caused me pain and trauma. I forgive myself for all the mistakes I have made, knowing now that these where my life lessons, many of which were repeated, as it took me a while to understand just what I needed to learn from them.
I also encourage my clients to forgive and show gratitude at the same time. There is always something to be grateful for, even if it is a lesson. Here is a couple of examples:
“I forgive my ex husband for all the emotional and physical violence he put me through but thank you for helping me to produce 3 beautiful children.”
I forgive Mick for the terrible violence he showed towards me but thank you for teaching me that I would never want to treat people in the same way.”
As I go through life, I continue to practice forgiveness. Sometimes it takes me a little while to get there, after all I’m only human lol. Remember this is not for them, but for you, to enable you to be set free. I advise that you start with forgiving yourself then move onto others. Don’t do it all at once as it can be very emotional. Remember it is part of the healing process and needs time and space to achieve. Take care of you through this process.
Much Love Maria.
Copyright ©Maria Salvadore 2019